The midlife emergency strikes fear into our hearts but it's truly an opportunity and a turning point. Not everybody suffers from a midlife crisis, but middle age (or middle youth, as I prefer to think of it) truly seems to be a time of appraisal and transition. As we move from being someone's parent or partner to possibly stunning out on our own once more or entering a new phase of life, it can be somewhat daunting. So, here are my top five ways of navigating middle age and remembering to have fun along the way.
1. Buy a motorcycle if you want to:
Just check out what your reasons are for doing so. The same applies to the sexy new car and the Botox injections. Are you trying to recapture your youth? If so, is this the way to go about it? And who wants this so-called lost youth? Let's face it, we knew nothing back then even though we notion we knew everything. The only disadvantage to us now is that we physically have a few more miles on the clock. Since we can't do anyone about those, what's the point worrying? Enjoy your new bike.
2. Work out what you need for your well-being:
Now truly isn't the time for developing bad habits. We chucked those when we realised we could no longer cope with the 24 hour sessions and still turn up for work on time. Take care of your corporal condition and your mental condition and emotional needs will be easier to meet too. If you're planning on a new practice regime, have a chat with your doctor. I know it's dull but you want to enjoy getting fit and staying fit, don't you?
3. Look both ways before crossing
If you're my age, then I'm guessing you remember the Green Cross man and the Tufty Club, both guardians of road safety. Remember that the Green Cross Man told us that he wouldn't all the time be there? Well, he wasn't kidding, was he? We have new crossroads to negotiate when we reach middle age. It's a bit like being a teenager again. All these choices we will suddenly find ourselves faced with are a bit like having to take our options again in third year; and if you think "how am I supposed to know what to do for the rest of my life" then you're truly not alone. It's not such a bad thing either. Take a close look at all of your options. If you need help with this, this is what a coach can help you with!
4. Be hopeful
If you're at the stage where you are reassessing your life, do this from a hopeful and definite stance. I know that's easier said than done; only, really, it isn't. This is a choice. You can invent your life from a position of power, or you can assume that control of what you do is entirely out of your hands.
5. Enjoy the midlife makeover
This can be an immensely definite experience. It may involve ending relationships or leaving jobs, and if this is the case, you may be surprised by how you feel (relief is often cited as a original emotion). However, a word of caution; throwing away perfectly good jobs and relationships in the name of taking control of one's life is not necessarily the way to go. Really, if it ain't broke, don't fix it unless you want to irrevocably ruin things.
If you navigate your middle youth well, you'll have more fun than you've ever had in your life before.
Let's do a straw poll. Who wants to trade in youthful acne, and mental you know it all, for strength of character, feel and the power to make great decisions?
I bet I know what your respond is.
5 Ways to Navigate Middle Age